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When Words Cut Too Deep
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Anyone can be an abuser
But the real mystery is finding out who
Abusers can be men or women, but the major of cases (93%) are
males. The image of an abuser is a facade- They try to be the "good"
provider, boyfriend, spouse, or father. However, they tend to have low self
esteem and do not want to accept responsibility for their actions (especially
violent actions). They often attempt to rationalize their behavior or blame
others for it. Click a link on the left to find out more about different types
of abuse.
Danger Signs
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Jealousy- of your family, friends, other relationships you
have had in the past and/or do not involve him
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Violent Behavior- fights at parties, bars, street
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Controlling Behavior- eats up all your time, won't allow you
to make personal decisions; he will decide how you wear your hair or invest
your money
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Verbal Abuse- calling your hurtful names, putting you down
in private or public
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Mood Swings- "Jekyll and Hyde," you are unsure of
who or what he is at any given moment, when he will be in a bad mood
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Isolation- from friends, family, other people. You are
afraid to be social because he might get angry
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Blaming- he blames you for his problems like getting a bad
grade
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Unrealistic Expectations- overcritical, he expects you to be
the prom queen, perfect girlfriend
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Hypersensitivity- easily insulted, oversensitive, hurt
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Family History- has seen domestic violence in their nuclear
families, grows up to believe this is normal behavior.
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Sexist Attitudes- believe in strict gender roles, women take
care of him and the home
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Threats of Violence- any threat or physical
force that is used to control you
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